After being in a relationship with a guy for a long time, you might wonder what is keeping him from asking you to pop the question about marriage. This can leave many doubts in your mind. Is it you, something you did or said, does he want to call it quits or what? It can be a very stressing matter, and all this worrying can take a toll over your otherwise normal life.
So, to avoid getting your stress levels high, we get you a list of reasons for this delay, and how you should handle it.
#1. He is scared to commit
Most men dread the word ‘commitment’. To them, it means being restricted from all the pleasures of life, and an end to their freedom. Making him understand that not much will change after marriage, can be a good way to get him out of the commitment phobia.
#2. He is waiting for his parents approval
If he is a family guy, he might not want to go against the wishes of his parents. He might be planning to set up a meeting or something to introduce you to them.
#3. He wants to enjoy his bachelorhood for some more time
Well, don’t they all? They might fail to understand that no time will ever be enough. But, you just hang in there for a little more time. If he still does not, then you must have a word with him regarding this!
#4. Responsibility scares him
Being responsible for someone else, when he still needs someone to pick up after him scares him. Making him understand that you two are in it together and will work as a team, might calm him down.
#5. He still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend
Have you noticed him talking about his past girlfriend quite often? That might be what is holding him back. It is thus adviced to be cautious.
#6. He has to wait for his elder sibling to be engaged first
#7. He feels he might lose you if you say no
He might not be sure whether you are ready to take the plunge or not. Leave him hints that this is what you want to. If he catches them right, you might have a ring waiting for you at the dinner table tonight!
#8. He is in love with somebody else but cannot recognise his feelings
It might not be his ex-girlfriend, but someone else. You should be the smarter one here to identify his feelings, and leave him before you end up getting hurt.
#9. He is just being lazy
He knows in his mind that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, but is just being lazy to propose. Show him that it is time he stopped taking you for granted, and got you that diamond!
#10. He might be searching for the perfect ring
Aahh! Now we are talking! Well, if this is the reason, he is free to take as much time as he needs to find the biggest and prettiest rock, isn’t it?
#11. He wants to achieve a little more in life professionally
He wants to be financially secure before he asks your hand in marriage, to give you a comfortable and wonderful life. Now, that is a sweet thing!
#12. All his friends are still single
If his friends are unmarried, he might be a little scared to be the first one to tie the knot. What would his friends say, how they would tease him, how he would be cut off from the group for a while, etc., must be the thoughts clouding his mind. If you too are close with his buddies and can trust them as much as he does, get them to lighten the conception that he has, and encourage him to ask you out.
#13. He is scared of being a father soon
Men themselves are like little children, refusing to grow up ever. Obviously, becoming parents is the next step after getting married, be it sooner or later. Being unsure to be responsible for a child’s life is not his fault too, as it can be a scary thought for some people. If you sense that in him, make him understand that you both do not need to rush into things. Having children will always be on the cards, but you are in no hurry!
#14. He wants to ask your parents before he pops the question to you
Now isn’t that the sweetest thing ever? He knows that you will say yes, but getting your parents approval first is so gentleman like of him. Yes, consider yourself lucky to have met a guy that we thought does not exist anymore!
#15. He is waiting for you to ask him
Why should the guy always propose first? You can too! And, maybe that is what he is waiting for as he cannot gather the courage to ask you yet!
Well, if you two are meant to be together, eventually you will be. Do not push him to do what you want. Let him do it his own way. Unless you sense that he is delaying the proposal for the wrong reasons, in which case you need to walk out of this relation. It might be a little late than you expected, but it will all be worth it when he actually pops the question. All you need is a positive mind and a little patience!